No matter which way you flip it, our clothing sends a message; something others notice about us, that upon first glance, instantly makes them recall any preconceived notions they may have had about our chosen outfit & what that outfit says about us as people. This goes especially for the great challenge of walking the fine line between dressing sexy versus “slutty” (for lack of a better term).
▲ Plunging neckline: HOT / NOT
I’m kind of over all the articles about the way we dress giving others, men specifically, the right to assume that it’s about to get physical. Women are not “asking for it” even if the general consensus says that we shouldn’t be surprised if when we dress sexy that it attracts attention. Attracting attention doesn’t qualify as permission for unwanted advances.
▲ Cutout: HOT / NOT
That being said, there is definitely a clear difference between dressing in a sexy way & acting in a “slutty” manner. I won’t sit here & tell you it’s okay to show up at a pre-school in a crop top, mini skirt, & 5-inch heels. That’s just bad advice. But I am saying, dress in whatever makes you feel confident & beautiful, as long as it’s appropriate for the occasion.
▲ Backless: HOT / NOT
Dressing in a sexy way shouldn’t be misconstrued. Maybe you ARE looking for an ego boost; maybe it makes you feel like you can conquer the world, or maybe you’re simply following the club dress code. Whatever the case, I truly believe we should wear what feels good to us yet still be sure to keep in mind that we do not live in a judgment-free zone.
▲ Sheer: HOT / NOT
There are so many ways to be sexy w/out giving away too much. Some may gravitate towards showing off their back or a bit of side-boob. Maybe accentuating the derrière & legs are more your tune. It’s when we try to shine the spotlight on everything at once that we might find ourselves being perceived in an unfavorable light. However, if you aren’t acting unfavorably, then you shouldn’t have to find yourself concerned for your safety either.
▲ Short: HOT / NOT
We can’t change someone’s perception unless they give us time to change it so, if you do consistently find yourself garnering unwanted advances, at least you can take solace in knowing that small wardrobe adjustments can alleviate this. There is no option for one-size fits all in sexiness, so it’s important to remember that not every style will work on us the same way it does on others.
▲ Tight: HOT / NOT
I am by no means preaching to cover up, but rather, just be aware & honest about perception & judgment. If you look like you stepped out of Playboy, then you’re likely going to be perceived as such. But then again, if you’re cool with that… more power to you, sister!